So lately, there’s something I’ve noticed that’s become an “epidemic” of sorts.
The more I work on myself and the more I work with 1-on-1 clients, the more I realize how pervasive this “success killer” is.
It’s power to hold you back is extremely great.
And that’s why I wanted to shoot this video for you – and tell you exactly what it is, why it happens, and what you can do INSTEAD to set yourself up for success and long-term happiness.
Enjoy – and be sure to let me know in the comments if you have any other tips or techniques that you’ve found helpful for this.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
- Why this one thing has become an “epidemic” and it’s likely holding you back
- How “solving” this one issue in your life can lead to a lifetime of happiness, success, and fulfillment
- What the plants in my aquarium can teach you about reaching your full potential in life
- How our environment growing up can really sabotage us
- Why you must go “internal” if you want to fix the things in your “external” world
- A simple technique to help you work through this #1 “success killer”
- And much more …
01:42 I see your cat !! 😀
Having spent a lot of time on this question myself, I think that what we are talking about here is actually a combination of several things and that may be what is keeping so many people stuck. First, as you said, we get a lot of messages as children that lead us to believe that if we aren’t PERFECT we don’t DESERVE rewards, recognition, etc. So “not good enough” winds up looking like perfectionism. But there is also that bit about deserving and I think that is what has us feel like frauds even when we achieve success. Because obviously at that point our work WAS “good enough” to achieve whatever material rewards we got out of it. But it’s when we believe we don’t DESERVE those rewards that we get stuck in this “not good enough” spiral that you’re describing. And we justify that undeserving feeling because we know all the ways in which our work wasn’t PERFECT, which is really just to say, the ways we want to improve it next time around. But that desire for continual improvement – of our businesses and ourselves – is a GOOD thing. So the internal work you’re talking about looks like 1) letting go of perfectionism, 2) learning to accept the rewards of what we have achieved, while 3) still trying to do better.
That’s a dog! Mini or Toy Poodle looks like 😉
Thank you James! Hope to see you in LA